Pressure of being a father

• bisdakol [TS] on 08 Mar 24 @ 11:57 AM #

  Pagod na ako.

• bisdakol [TS] on 08 Mar 24 @ 12:20 PM #

  When you fail, it's all on you. When you succeed, tahimik.
  Would rather die to be honest, para masaya lahat. Pagod na pagod na ako!

• gr8guy on 08 Mar 24 @ 12:33 PM #

  i feel you brad, i know it is tough. but life is a challege, we have to roll with the punches.
  
  can you maybe provide a little backgroud as to what transpired? no need for details perhaps just a summary sir?

• bisdakol [TS] on 08 Mar 24 @ 12:55 PM #

  ^ i am always being accused of something I have not done or any plans of doing lang. mahirap mabuhay ganito, kahit walang mali ginagawa mo gagawan ka issue talaga. wala din akong makausap sa totoo lang.
  pagod nako, pre.

• listik on 08 Mar 24 @ 05:42 PM #

  may kanya-kanya tayong pinagdadaanan sa pagiging ama, mga challenges, mga nakaka pressure talaga..
  
  
  maraming factors, financial, emotional, paano palakihin ang anak/mga anak, paano babalansehin/hahatiin ang oras, etc.. kahit nga good father ka na, nag iisip ka pa rin kung paano ka pa maging better father or best father..
  
  
  saka sa mga taong nakapaligid sa atin, iba-iba ang tingin nila sa atin as a father.. pero wala akong time sa mga ganyan, sa kung anong tingin nila sa akin, bahala sila..
  
  
  may mga issues kami ng asawa ko na kaming dalawa lang ang nakakaalam, at ayaw din namin ipaalam sa iba ("ano na lang ang sasabihin ng mga kapitbahay?"), kahit sa mga magulang namin ay ayaw namin sabihin at humingi ng tulong..
  
  
  may mga saloobin ako na sa akin lang at ayokong makipagdiskusyon tungkol dito sa asawa ko, iniisip ko pa lang nakakapressure na, na sa huli ay ako pa rin ang babalikan.. dahil ako ang ama, responsibilidad ko, obligasyon ko..
  
  "We are captives of our own identities living in prisons of our own creation." - Theodore 'T-Bag' Bagwell
  
  
  sa totoo lang mas napapagod na din ako, at matagal ko na din nararamdaman itong pagod ko.. pero ayokong bumigay at bumitaw, kailangan kong maging matatag at malakas, para sa mga anak ko, dahil tatay ako..
  
  “And a man, a man provides. And he does it even when he’s not appreciated, or respected, or even loved. He simply bears up and he does it. Because he’s a man.” - Gustavo 'Gus' Fring

• DjDom5 on 08 Mar 24 @ 11:21 PM #

  Sus, akala ko pari ka, he he
  
  Maghanap ka ng kaibigan mas naganda kung malapit din sa misis mo.

• DjDom5 on 08 Mar 24 @ 11:40 PM #

  ^For advice purposes lang ha
  Hindi yung iniisip nila, masama yata iyun.

• lxi97 on 09 Mar 24 @ 08:20 AM #

  saka sa mga taong nakapaligid sa atin, iba-iba ang tingin nila sa atin as a father.. pero wala akong time sa mga ganyan, sa kung anong tingin nila sa akin, bahala sila..

  
  This, when i got so much older. I have the impression that the threadstarter is a young father because i felt the same way when i was young. When i got old, i simply just dont care anymore what other people say or think. Di naman sila ang bumubuhay sa anak ko.

• euen_ilagan on 09 Mar 24 @ 10:17 AM #

  i simply just dont care anymore what other people say or think.

  
  
  ditto
  
  
  TS, time for you to get inspirations outside fictional materials.

• gr8guy on 11 Mar 24 @ 12:15 AM #

  ^ i am always being accused of something I have not done or any plans of doing lang. mahirap mabuhay ganito, kahit walang mali ginagawa mo gagawan ka issue talaga. wala din akong makausap sa totoo lang.
  pagod nako, pre.

  
  
  omg, me too!! haha and i thought I was the only one. cheers bruv, you are not alone.
  
  well for me, kinausap ko ng masinsinan, kung di mo ako kayang itrust, then let's call it quits. I have done all i have to be honest, to be faithful, to be sincere. if you cannot give me that, then ayoko ng one-way relationship.
  
  ayun, tumino naman at hindi na napraning. for me, it's just giving assurance lang siguro. pero not sure din kasi kung ano level ng kapraningan si esmi mo sir.
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• requiem_inferni on 11 Mar 24 @ 03:02 PM #

  we have to persevere! ayos lang mapagod TS pero kelangan natin maging matatag lalo na para sa mga anak natin! a good reliable and support group will greatly help. Mostly mga couple friends din na di ka ija-judge kung mag-open ka man ng problema or saloobin. Accountability partners and discipleship group sa church namin, sobrang nakaka-keep ng sanity namin as a parent and adult (and as a Christian lalo na).

• bisdakol [TS] on 11 Mar 24 @ 06:07 PM #

  Thank you for checking up on me, guys. wala lang talaga ako makausap. Medyo shy, introvert kasi akong tao. I just feel tired, sa bahay lang ako, di na interested even meeting friends, family.. just home. Walang bisyo, boring life as they say.
  TO the person who messaged me, thank you! A big help po.
  
  Hirap basta tatay, dapat di ka talaga mag fail or else lahat sisi sa iyo.

• t3nma on 11 Mar 24 @ 06:56 PM #

  Failure is part of life, ang importante bumangon kada bagsak. Try to zone out ang mga critics na ala magawa kundi manisi. Kaya mo yan, hang in there!

• statix on 11 Mar 24 @ 07:08 PM #

  Try to zone out ang mga critics na ala magawa kundi manisi. Kaya mo yan, hang in there!

  
  
  YES. just ignore and learn how to GREY ROCK them.
  you are okay, it wasn't you, but them.

• dvdpotter on 11 Mar 24 @ 08:00 PM #

  Are you a practicing Catholic, OP? Then may Bible verse akong ishi-share sayo:
  
  [28] Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.
  [29] Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me; for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.
  [30] For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.
  
  Matthew 11:28-30, RSV

• Godai_Yusaku on 12 Apr 24 @ 12:03 PM #

  It's tough being a man these days..
  - you're not allowed to cry
  - you're not allowed to complain
  - you're not allowed to lose your temper
  - you're not allowed to cheat
  - you're not allowed to indulge in your own hobbies
  - you're expected to make money and pay for everything
  - you're expected to read your spouse's mind
  - you're expected to make time
  - you're expected to take it all with a smile
  
  Kinda makes you wonder how your dad was able to handle it noh? Hang in there because it never gets any easier. Find a hobby or sport that allows you to de-stress and stick to it. That way you can stay sane and keep going.

• weberan2 on 12 Apr 24 @ 04:36 PM #

  Taking care of your mental and emotional well-being is crucial. Finding a hobby or sport that allows you to de-stress and relax is indeed a valuable approach. Engaging in activities that bring you joy and provide an outlet for self-expression can help maintain balance in your life <click here for link>
  
  -- edited by Godai_Yusaku on Apr 12 2024, 01:48 AM

• DjDom5 on 13 Apr 24 @ 10:58 AM #

  Pwede ring mag cross dress ka? Di ba pampatanggal ng stress yung pagpunta sa parlor, magdala ka ng picture ng paborito mong miss universe para magpakulay o magpagupit ng buhok at magpamanicure tapos mag shopping ka na rin isama mo si Misis para mabigyan ka nya ng tips at sya ang pumili sa iyo ng dress.
  
  Bumili ka na rin ng lipstick at makeup at pati na rin wig na may kulay at magmakeup kayong dalawa.
  
  If all else fails magpamasahe ka na lang.
  
  Joke lang ha pero meron talagang mga nag cross dress para magpatanggal ng stress sa bahay lang. Wala lang feeling lang nila.
  
  -- edited by DjDom5 on Apr 12 2024, 08:04 PM

• DjDom5 on 13 Apr 24 @ 11:15 AM #

  Di ba yung ibang mga tibo mas grabe pa magpasexy...

• gr8guy on 15 Apr 24 @ 01:59 AM #

  Thank you for checking up on me, guys. wala lang talaga ako makausap. Medyo shy, introvert kasi akong tao. I just feel tired, sa bahay lang ako, di na interested even meeting friends, family.. just home. Walang bisyo, boring life as they say.
  TO the person who messaged me, thank you! A big help po.
  
  Hirap basta tatay, dapat di ka talaga mag fail or else lahat sisi sa iyo.

  
  
  musta na sir bisdakol? mukhang OK na po sila since March 11 pa last reply nyo.
  
  Hope all is well po!
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• bisdakol [TS] on 17 Apr 24 @ 01:06 PM #

  ^ Yo gr8guy.
  
  Same ol same ol.. ikaw diha musta?

• gr8guy on 17 Apr 24 @ 01:49 PM #

  Same ol same ol

  
  
  oh, di pa naayos with esmi sir?
  
  eto OK lang, papalamig sa mall.
  
  gadayumn these Gen Z's lol JK
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• gr8guy on 25 Apr 24 @ 10:09 PM #

  grabe init sir, sana cool na situation nyo ni esmi

• gabszxc11 on 29 Apr 24 @ 03:13 PM #

  hi TPC,
  I'm gab, 26yrs old.
  this is my 80th day being a father to my daughter as of writing this.
  
  gamer / buying and selling computer stuffs / building pc / working everyday from 8am-6pm @office.
  i never vision myself when i grow if i still doing this. big changes when my daughter comes. i have only limited time for everything. big sacrifices for my hobbies and wants, I only prioritize what my daughters need.
  
  i need to be brave, i need to stand on my own. for my daughter.
  on my age, i have lots of things to know and invalidate my negatives, again.. best for my daughter.
  
  seeing my daughter when i leave the house is very sad, she'll looks at you and smile, it makes me think to not to leave her.
  but when i come home and see her, exhausted and tired will relief.
  
  Good luck to every father on this forum, hope this message find's you well.