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*Samahan ng mga wala o nawalan ng love life o single uli (no textspeak, do not reply to trolls)

  • Pumayag siya magpakasal kasi yun nalang alam niya daw paraan para maging okay kami after kasal me mga tampuhan. at everytime na makikita ko yung chat sasabihin niya e wala daw kasi siya makausap dahil lagi daw ako galit.

    1. She's a total IDIOT - if things are not okay, that alone is reason enough NOT to get married. Hindi porke ilang taon kayo naging bf/gf eh sapat na dahilan na yun para magpakasal sa isang tao. Marriage is not something you can simply back out of. Even more so when kids are involved na sa mix. Given your statements, she's clearly fallen out of love with you a long time ago. She's just such a big idiot that di nya nagawang panindigan yung nararamdaman nya (or lack of it).
    2. You're a guilty fool - nakita mo na yung warning signs bago ka pa nag-propose pero tinuloy mo pa rin. Malamang your guilt pushed you to go through with it. And thinking na nagawa nyong tumagal ng ganun eh akala mo siguro you guys are truly meant to be together. BZZZZZT! Wrong!

    You know what? If di siguro natuloy yang pregnancy nya eh hiniwalayan ka na nya. She must be regretting her decision to marry you since the day she found out that she was pregnant. In any case, di sapat na dahilan ang kids to stay together lalo at ganyan na ang nasa isip ng babae. Once the wife decides na ayaw na nya, it's the end of the road. And clearly your wife has long since decided na ayaw na nya. All these things na ginagawa nya eh preparation na for yung paghihiwalay ninyo.. She's laying down the foundations for a new life with somebody else.

    Sorry bro but I only see a sad end to your marriage with the way things are going sa inyo. Best to ask her ng harapan kung gusto pa ba nya or ayaw na. And promise her that you will give support for the baby even if hiwalay na kayo - so that di nya iisipin na mag-stay sa marriage nyo for the sake of the baby. A man of the cloth would tell you to do everything short of martyrdom just to save your marriage. And I guess yan na nga ang ginagawa mo right now. I just feel na bumibigay ka na kaya ka nandito at nagtatanong sa mga taong di mo kaano-ano.

    I've been down that road before and I know how painful it can be.. It will hurt like hell. But you'll just have to man up and deal with it.

    Good luck and keep praying for a miracle until the very end.
  • And clearly your wife has long since decided na ayaw na nya. All these things na ginagawa nya eh preparation na for yung paghihiwalay ninyo.. She's laying down the foundations for a new life with somebody else.


    This hit me up hard core, having a first hand experience of it. Well said.


    @ranrun
    Gaya ng sabi ni sir Godai, it really looks better to call it off NOW. mahihirapan lang kayo in the long run, besides hindi rin maganda na ganyan kalalakihan ng anak niyo. Just be a responsible father na lang and dont rush getting into a new relationship in the future.


    All the best.
  • Tagal na huling bisita ko sa thread. Anyway not sure if may na share ng story tulad nito.

    Sino dito single pa up to this day dahil sya yung tipo na hindi madiling ma inlab kaya yung reto ng mga kaibigan ay hindi pinapansin kasi mas gusto nya yung sya mismo naghahanap at mas gusto nya yung tipong love at first sight o yung crush talaga nya ang gusto nya pormahan.
  • @wade

    Pihikan ang tawag sa ganyan tao. Hehehe. Wala nang bago dyan. Hehehehe
  • Yeah but I believe it's more than pihikan. I mean yeah when it comes to other things, like choosing your dinner, purchasing clothes to wear for saturday night gimik or buying your next cellphone, often times it would take us a while to pick and choose coz the ones available aren't the one we are looking for but due to its necessity, we eventualy settle for one with the hep of compromise.

    But it's different in dating. Well some are capabe of compromising their preference in a partner kaya they are able to settle with one. But some aren't able to and often times they are labeled as pihikan. And usually being pihikan is seen as negative.

    My point is it's really hard to compromise when it comes to dating knowing that you'd be stuck with this person forever. It's different when you purchase stuff coz you can dispose and buy again if the thing no longer gives you happiness. Or when you settle for a dinner that you dont like coz the one you really love is unavailable at the moment, you are willing to pick another dish just to satisfy your hunger now and it is alright coz maybe tomorrow the food you are after is going to be available again.

    It's different when you are pihikan with your dates especially when you have no control over it, meaning you aren't willing to compromise.

    Sa akin ang is it really wrong if you are single because you aren't willing to compromise your preference?

    -- edited by deadmanwade on Apr 06 2019, 09:15 AM
  • 1. She's a total IDIOT - if things are not okay, that alone is reason enough NOT to get married. Hindi porke ilang taon kayo naging bf/gf eh sapat na dahilan na yun para magpakasal sa isang tao. Marriage is not something you can simply back out of. Even more so when kids are involved na sa mix. Given your statements, she's clearly fallen out of love with you a long time ago. She's just such a big idiot that di nya nagawang panindigan yung nararamdaman nya (or lack of it).
    2. You're a guilty fool - nakita mo na yung warning signs bago ka pa nag-propose pero tinuloy mo pa rin. Malamang your guilt pushed you to go through with it. And thinking na nagawa nyong tumagal ng ganun eh akala mo siguro you guys are truly meant to be together. BZZZZZT! Wrong!

    You know what? If di siguro natuloy yang pregnancy nya eh hiniwalayan ka na nya. She must be regretting her decision to marry you since the day she found out that she was pregnant. In any case, di sapat na dahilan ang kids to stay together lalo at ganyan na ang nasa isip ng babae. Once the wife decides na ayaw na nya, it's the end of the road. And clearly your wife has long since decided na ayaw na nya. All these things na ginagawa nya eh preparation na for yung paghihiwalay ninyo.. She's laying down the foundations for a new life with somebody else.

    Sorry bro but I only see a sad end to your marriage with the way things are going sa inyo. Best to ask her ng harapan kung gusto pa ba nya or ayaw na. And promise her that you will give support for the baby even if hiwalay na kayo - so that di nya iisipin na mag-stay sa marriage nyo for the sake of the baby. A man of the cloth would tell you to do everything short of martyrdom just to save your marriage. And I guess yan na nga ang ginagawa mo right now. I just feel na bumibigay ka na kaya ka nandito at nagtatanong sa mga taong di mo kaano-ano.

    I've been down that road before and I know how painful it can be.. It will hurt like hell. But you'll just have to man up and deal with it.

    Good luck and keep praying for a miracle until the very end.


    Thanks Godai

    AYoko kasi malaman ng parents ko at parents niya. At least dito di naman tayo magkakakilala ng personal

    Duda ko talag kasi di lang sila nanood ng sine
  • sorry to ask you this,
    ikaw ba talaga ang ama ng pinagbubuntis nya?